Monthly Archives: August 2009

College Move In: Year Three

University-of-Wisconsin-Madison

Year one was the year of the space bags. I was simply out of my mind. Seriously, the dog was nervous that she would find herself in one of these bags with the air sucked out of it with a vacuum. It was the year of the famous 10 lb. dorm room in 5 lbs. of luggage.

Year two was the sorority house move in. Somewhere in the neighborhood of 90 degrees, of course no air conditioning, 3 flights of steps, a lost printer and the embarrassing UPS story about the lost 21 lb. box of shoes.

I swore I was done with move in and move out, but when your kid is only home for 3 days in August you sacrifice some sleep and break every nail on both hands just to squeeze out a little more time with her.

This year lacks drama big time. Home from camp on Sunday, upack, 13 loads of laundry, and re-pack. This kid is amazing, in 45 minutes she packed for a whole semester. It took me longer to pack for the 2 days I would be gone. In my defense there was a weather check and I had to make adjustments.

So off I go to Madtown, one of my favorite places. With my daughter, one of my favorite peops.

I am sure there will be a few good blog posts out of this one.

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Button Sale

button-sale

This was one of those sights that made me stop and laugh out loud. This is the window of a local dry cleaner. You know, the dry cleaner that is always sending your clothes back to you with the missing buttons.

Well here is a news flash, folks. There could very well be a conspiracy going on out there. Dry cleaners all over the country could be popping the buttons off your clothes, filling jars with them and placing them in the windows of their establishments offering them up for sale.

I think it is time to blow the whistle on them!

I must go in and see how much they are charging.

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Time to Cry Tuesday – Transition

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Miriam Webster defines transition as 1 a : passage from one state, stage, subject, or place to another : change b : a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another.

As parents, we define transitions as those pivotal moments that define us.

I have never transitioned particularly well when it comes to my kids. The year my daughter “graduated” from the 4s class I told that to the pre-school director in passing. To my surprise she quoted me moments later when making her speech. It seems that sentiment hit the nail on the head for her.

It is so bittersweet to watch our kids move on to the next level. They usually float from transition to transition with much less apprehension than we have. Perhaps it is part of our desire to protect them. Or maybe we are just trying to hang on just a little bit longer to the previous stage we have become so attached to.

Funny thing about parenting, the better we get at it the more independent our kids become. In some ways, we facilitate our own obsolescence. Isn’t that the natural order?

It is that time of year folks. Back to school no longer means a new box of crayons and color-coded binders and folders. (what? all families don’t do that?). This year, in my house, back to school means college applications for my youngest and back to college for my oldest. Not to mention that 7 of my close girlfriends are sending off 7 daughters and a son in the next few weeks.

This is the mother of all back to schools!

So here I am, right before it all starts. And yesterday my son’s oldest buddy drove up to the house hours after he arrived home from camp. There he was, sitting behind the wheel of a car, and all I kept thinking was how can this be that adorable little boy I have known since he was born? How can he be over 6′ tall and driving a car? And then with the sweet demeanor of that same little boy inside him he said, “Oh, Amy, come here. I keep forgetting to show this to you. For some reason I have been carrying this around in my wallet.” And out he pulled the baseball card above of that 40 lb. 3’8″ little blonde boy. Danny at 6 1/2!

Thanks Robbie, for bringing back that time and reminding me that no matter how many transitions we experience, the foundation we have built will always keep us all close.

Let the games begin.

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Everyone in their own beds… for now.

1 jeep.

2 very tired offspring.

10 loads of laundry.

1 blissfully happy mom.

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Shiti?

shiti

Was it a coincidence that I saw this guy today? The same day that the above the fold story in the NYT Business Section was titled U.S. Weighs Action of Citi’s $100 Million Dollar Man.

This article outlined the absurdity of the situation. In a nutshell: bank falters and threatens to go under, government bails them out to the tune of $45 billion, bank honors a contract to pay one guy $98 million and another a dwarfed $30 million in comparison.

Do we not think this might piss perhaps a FEW people off?

Ok, I may be grabbing at straws here but if this guy is ‘worth’ $100 million now isn’t it safe to say he has been banking a ton of dough over the years. What’s he worth? (and who really cares). Point being, is it not worth it to lay down on the big bucks to keep yourself from looking like the biggest pig on wall street (which is quite a feat)? Exactly how much is enough?

My thought? the whole thing is pretty Shiti.

Oh, and New York Times, you have an error in the 5th paragraph, first sentence. The word ‘that’ is in there two times. You must have been focusing on the correct spelling of ameliorate in that same sentence.

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Woodstock Celebration

I was just shy of 10-years-old during Woodstock, yet somehow I always felt a part of it’s generation. The music, the vibe, the sentiment; it all carried over into the seventies during my teen years becoming the soundtrack of who we were. Hippies at heart, I suppose.

I am fortunate enough to live in a town where a great disc jockey and rock historian also resides. Pete Fornatale graced us with a lecture and Q&A followed by part one of the Woodstock movie at our public library, another jewel of this town.

In thanks to Pete I will plug his book, Back to the Garden, which looks like it should be a great read.

And just because every time I see this video I laugh, I will leave you with this hysterical ‘translation’ of Joe Cocker’s Woodstock performance.

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Nesting Like a Crazy Old Hag

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Odd phenomenon, this nesting thing. Three days and counting till my kids come home. Where the hell did the summer go? There sits that list of ‘Things to do while the kids are away’ on my desk and there are certainly not enough check marks next to tasks.

Solution: mommy hyperdrive. Only this year it is more reactive than proactive. For instance we finally replaced the front lamp post because it snapped at the base and fell over in the wind. Hence the electrician was called to re-attach the fixture and while he is here he can fix the stuff that we have ignored for at least five years awhile.

Dinner conversation:

Me: The electrician is coming tomorrow.

Gary: Good, did you buy the timer for the basement.

Me: Oh, yeh, that. Um the hardware store didn’t have one. But I did pick up your hair gel.

Gary: Great (thinking that the electrician probably has no use for his gel, not to mention he could very well be bald).

Me: Oh, he needs to go in the attic to see why all the high hats and fan in the bathroom don’t work.

In Unison: NOT THE ATTIC (picture a horror movie scream here)

Gary: I just had tea (earl gray with honey, of course), I am not going up there in the hot attic.

Me: Fine, I’ll go!

So he went up to the attic (he is not  a fool) and started handing down things I had no intention of parting with tonight. For example: the shopping bag of Danny’s kindergarten Thanksgiving decorations, Jana’s cow lamp from her nursery, bags of old pictures. (yes I am an attic pack rat) STOP! The idea here is to clear a path to the part of the attic above the bathroom, not to actually clean it! Let’s just move the crap around like we always do.

Hey, at least he did not call me a crazy old hag like the last time he went up there.

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Some of my best friends are gay

frank-selvaggiNo seriously, I know this line is cliché but everyone loves an attention grabbing post headline. Call me a blog whore if you must.

I don’t often write about my friends but this one could not go unmentioned. I have never been more proud. I have written about Frank once before over at 50-something moms with the catchy title I am in love with a gay man but don’t tell our husbands. (again, the blog whore reared its ugly head)

I have known him more than half my life and consider both he and his husband, Bill, family. At the darkest times in our lives Frank and I have always been there to pick each other up off the floor and dust each other  off. And in turn when there is something to celebrate we are always on each other’s short list of who to call.

As a gay activist his passion is second to none in raising both funds and awareness as the co-chair of the Empire State Pride Agenda. He has been a driving force for marriage equality in this country, which would make sense for he and Billy have not only the strongest marriage I know but also had the one of the best weddings I have ever attended.

The reason for this post is to congratulate my dear friend on his appointment to the board of directors of Signature bank. With tears in my eyes I read the statement that included his marital status. You have come a long way, my friend.

As I always told you, “All good things in all good time.”

Congrats Frank Selvaggi, I am so very proud.

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No wife?

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What’s the shot that this guy has a woman living in his house?

Wife: Hon, why don’t you put on your plaid shirt and completely different plaid shorts today, they look so good together.

Husband: Oh, great, and then I can put on a pair of white gym socks with my sandals and round out the outfit.

I took this shot on the same boardwalk as the kid on a leash, dog in a stroller and recession rosaries. AND the 3 hens 3 girls and Hot… Dogs on leaving the zip code. I almost had photographic whiplash by the end of that day! Forgive the posterization, I had to screw around with the levels to get the plaids to read as I was shooting into the sun. Don’t you just hate it when absurdities don’t position themselves in the correct direction?

I am surely no fashionista. Let’s face it, I wear predominantly black clothes. I consider khaki a color. But I am always amazed when I see this kind of blatant fashion violation.

No, this is not even a fashion issue, this is a complete lack of recognition of complimentary design elements and the principles of clashing. This guy is different from the inappropriate T-shirt guys. Those guys made a conscious choice to be what they considered funny or clever, even if they weren’t. This guy? Did he get dressed in the dark? Did no one ever tell him that plaid needs a nice solid to balance it out. Has he never noticed that others don’t dress like this?

Then of course, I got a little sad. What if he lost his wife and she always told him how to dress?

Or maybe, just maybe, the conversation above really did take place.

It takes all kinds.

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Time To Cry Tuesday – A Rock Icon

NYC. Hottest day of the summer (by at least 10 degrees). Summerstage in Central Park. The Pretenders.

An amazing night that, even in the heat, reminds me why being too far from NY would never work out for me. The people, the energy, the music. Made me all sentimental in a wow I forgot how much fun the summer in the city can be sort of way. Certainly not a real Time to Cry Tuesday, but screw it. I made the series, I can break the rule once in awhile. So if you feel like really crying today, think sad thoughts.

A little known Amy fact: If I could be any rock ‘n roller I would hands down, no contest want to be Chrissie Hynde. And it would not even have to be the Chrissie of years past. At 58 she can still rock the house. The passion is still there, her voice is amazing, she looks great, and seriously, who does not love a girl that can play guitar like that?

Here is something I did not know, but of course Dr. Jimmy did and pointed it out. She is a strict vegan and animal rights activist. She still owns a Vegan restaurant, The Vegiterranean in her home town of Akron, Ohio (as inI went back to Ohio, and my city was gone’). Note the sign at the concession stand:

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I am not gonna lie, I think the drummer might have been dying for a burger but didn’t want to piss off the boss.

I digress. To Chrissie Hynde, not a diva (that has too much of chick connotation and this is no chick) but an icon who surely stands in the top 5 women rockers of all time. You did not disappoint, and you can rest assured that I still want to be you.

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