15 years ago I was really nuts!

jana4thinvitepdf2You think I am crazy now, you should have known me when my kids were little. 

For those who did, you might remember this invitation to Jana’s 4th birthday party. For those who didn’t, this invitation was hand-drawn to match the fabric of the dress she wore to the party. But no, I did not stop there, the cake was also decorated with the same art. Nope, not one of those Carvel photo cakes. Yes that was me at 3 in the morning decorating the cake. 

What would I have done if she spilled something on that dress before the party? 

What a psycho! I suppose this was all part of my working mom, over-compensation, do it all, be everything to everyone, I am as good as any stay at home mom if it kills me sort of thing. Before all these terms existed I was a DIY (Do It Yourself), WAHM (Work At Home Mom), who always felt a little inadequate with the SAHMs (Stay At Home Moms) and had to prove I was worthy. Now I just want to be a MILF (sorry, no translations if you don’t know what that one is. And not really but it was a funny way to end this paragraph).

The day before the party I had lunch with a client who had become a dear friend. When she asked why I was so exhausted I told her of all the party preparations. That is when she reached across the table, put her hand on mine and said, “Hon, it’s time to stop the nonsense, order the damn Carvel cake and call it a day!” Her thought was that this surely meant more to me than the 4-year-old and in the long run this would not be the stuff she would remember.

Fast forward 15 years, Jana and I just talked about this and laughed the other day. Then today she decided to organize one of my many piles of pictures and momentos in my office. And what fell out of the pile onto the desk…

you guessed it, the invite art!

And you know what? We BOTH remembered it. I can laugh at how important this stuff was to me back then, but I am sure I would not change it if I could do it all over. 

Once a psycho, always a psycho!

Now where are those magic markers…

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2 responses to “15 years ago I was really nuts!

  1. It’s so cute though. I understand the need to make it all perfect and memorable, but I, too, have learned that what matters is the time we spend together being real. (that doesn’t mean that I don’t go over the top every anymore but I try & I do allow for shortcuts for the things that I can bear to….)

    Who wouldn’t want to be a MILF? At least in someone’s eyes!

  2. ellen

    Just have to comment that this party will never beat another 4 year old…JK at Ellen’s diner in NYC with the chimpanzee drinking the juice box. Remember that one???

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